Divorces are never a pleasant time, it’s the end of a relationship and for better or worse there’s usually a reason behind the split that can cause a little tension in the room.
Often a divorce can turn messy at the drop of a hat if you’re not careful, but that’s where we come in. Here are some tips from our team Andrew & Andrew Solicitors on how to lessen the impact of a divorce and stop it from becoming too personal and messy.
Open avenues of communication
One of the most important tips from our Solicitors in Portsmouth is that you need to keep a dialogue open with your partner. Whether that’s in the form of regular discussion or texting to confirm things, being open and communicating will ensure that the process goes as smooth as possible.
Or, if it’s the case where options for discussion have completely broken down, then consider using your solicitor as a third-party communicator. What we mean by that is, have your solicitor pass on messages from you or your ex-partner. It may take a little longer, but things will be a lot quicker than if neither of you are on speaking terms.
Request a prenuptial agreement
Another big tip from our Solicitors in Portsmouth is to get a prenup. Although it may be a little late for those of you currently going through a divorce, having this set down in the beginning can often save you a headache further down the line.
This agreement lets you and your partner agree without dispute about how things will be handled should you split. This applies to things like finances, property, cars, wills and if there’s any children or pets involved in the relationship.
Avoid posting on social media
After the split, try to avoid posting too much on social media. You may be happy about getting a divorce, but your ex may not be, the same applies if you find someone new, try to not flaunt it too much. Seeming like you’re overly happy during a very serious time can cause things to get a little heated if you’re not careful.
Be civil in custody battles
Finally, when it comes to custody battles between you and your ex-partner, try to keep things civil if kids are involved. A lot of people still try to use their children as a weapon in proceedings to try and cause some hurt to the other, this is the worst thing you can do. All it does is create unneeded tension and it can negatively impact the child as well, so keep things civil.
If you’re going through or are about to start proceedings for a divorce, then keep a few of these in mind and hopefully, things should go smoothly. Remember, divorces aren’t always the end of something they can be the start of a new chapter too, so why not start it off on the right foot.